Dowry; Blessing or Curse?

In today’s age where social fabrics are shaped under feminism, dowry kind of issues are most commonly debated. There are found divergent views on such a sensitive topic questioning whether dowry to daughter in her marriage could be overlooked or it is one of the basic elements in shadi ingredients. In a country like Pakistan where women empowerment is of zero level. Pakistan ranked 143rd in the gender index out of 144 countries in the world which is far beyond the ideal state for gender standing. Among many issues dowry (Jahaiz) is the sensitive one which has called for attention for many stakeholders by reflecting upon many violent demonstrations in the wake of dowry in Pakistan particularly in southern parts of the country. Burning bride and battering are the most common trends which have been observed due to non-capability of a bride to take dowry with her after marriage.  Ngo’s in Pakistan have raised the very issue at every forum that dowry is a curse but let us explore whether it is a curse or blessing for daughter.
Liberal view:
Liberal feminist strictly stops dowry practice and call it a curse. And yes, anything is curse which can lead to the disturbance of the peace in life with ending up taking life- causing death. So, the practice must be halted anyway.
Conservative view:
Jahaiz is the crucial element in any wedding in villages. No matter they are poor or rich they must give dowry to their daughter because it is the matter of respect. They attach their dignity with their daughter’s dowry. They care for her daughter’s respect in her in-laws eyes and consider that heavy dowry will get their daughter a respectable place in her in-laws.
Islamic view:
Islamic view totally refutes the idea that dowry is a curse. They tend to believe that dowry items are for their daughter’s needs so she doesn’t ask anyone about a common commodity of life. Prophet (PBUH) encourage giving dowry but the point must be picked from here that he encourages giving dowry by depending on the ability and capability of girl’s father income. He gave Fatima (R.A.) best dowry according to the traditions, age and his own capability.
We found Islamic view balanced one. Which encourage dowry but the demand of dowry, call it a daughter’s right but a morality of her father, associate consumption view with dowry but pomposity. Pakistani society must take her paws out from the entangled ideas of feminism which deprive a girl from her right and bogus traditions that treat a poor and a rich father alike and pressurize the former one to give no matter what the deal is. It is accuser if it is not practiced on true basis.
Article Credits: Zaroorat E Rishta Islamabad

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